Thursday, September 20, 2012
Living with a long distance teenager
Raising a soon to be 17 year old is much different than a 15 year old. She is more sure of her choices and who she wants to be. This sounds great except that I feel that she isn't comfortable being 100% her self in front of me. At times I catch a glimpse of this brand new adult and I smile inside.
Showing too much emotion and expressing how beautiful, wonderful, exceptionally smart she is, is a sign of parental "blah, blah, blah, and more blah". Like I'm obligated to say such things. There is no value in words only in actions. This is the major difference between raising a child and having a teenager.
I am sure she doesn't see it this way. I just want her to see me. And most of all to talk to me and for me to listen instead of reacting. Another big difference in teenagers and children. Children want you to solve their problems and make them feel better. Teenagers want to stand on their own two feet. Isn't this what we as parents have worked so hard to have them do. Then I ask you, you few who read this, why is it so hard to let go?