Life in the Middle Age Lane

December 2004 Dear Family & Friends, This is year instead of the traditional Christmas card wishing one and all a Merry Christmas; we thought a letter would be nice for a change.   Many of you have kept with us through e-mails or an occasional phone call but somehow those instances are never enough time to fill you in on the entire family.   So here it goes……. John as been doing great with his job, he no longer writes software but sales instead.   Who would have pictured John as a salesman?   And he is very good at it; he markets consulting services and software to banks throughout the United States.   He has traveled to Hawaii, Bahamas, Chicago, Pennsylvania, Wisconsin, New Jersey, etc..   Too many places to mention.   This year our family vacationed in the Bahamas and John’s Father and I went to Hawaii with him while my mom watched the kids for us. I have been busy with PTO as the representative for the campus ministry.   This year we have b

I have debated on writing this post for the past month, and it was difficult to find another topic to blog about since this subject matter is at the foundation of our lives currently.   So here it goes..... John and I are going into our phase 2 of our empty nester type of life, the first one was when Shelby decided to go to boarding school in her sophomore year in high school.  We adjusted, learned to enjoy our free evenings and weekends traveling to Dallas or vice versa. During those three years, something happen, we lost sight of each other.  Shelby was our commonality that made us interact with each other.  As strange as this sounds, our household is very divided in responsibilities and the only interaction was decisions regarding the kids. We decided we did not like the way our marriage was headed.  We have done counseling in the past and I felt that we needed something much more.  A drastic change in how we see our roles in our relationship.  Speaking for myself, I never